Should boyfriend administer drugs to girlfriend??

[OOT]

My boyfriend refuses to administer my steroids - he has before but said straight out he will not do it any longer. Says he does not want to feel responsible if anything bad was to come of it.

Funny thing is he is the biggest juice head in town! Now what I will do is go out and do it myself anyway, and he won't be monitoring my usage so he's lost any control in that respect. Not that I use great amounts of androgenic gear, but I'll be experimenting a tiny bit as time goes on, sensibly of course!

Do I have a right to be damn right pissed about this, or should I just accept it as something bodybuilder couples don't always share in their lives. I thought if I can't share it with him, than I can with no-one.

I know it's a sole journey anyway, but it was kinda nice to be in on it together.

What do you think?

(Besides, I don't like injecting myself..hehe)

[new@gettinbig1]

Make sure you are using responsibly and not in a sort of vengeance. It is nice to have your significant other help you and be a part of things..but if he choses not to, that is his choice. You should accept that and just worry about you, it is your body and your decision. It is not a simple situation, and experimenting...well it's not like trying a new hair color and seeing if you like it. Doing any kind of AS can result in sides, like deepend voice, enlarged clit, acne, hair growth, loss of periods, and some are irreversible! Make sure you educate yourself and are aware of all these things before you go trying anything!! If you are gonna be on, you are going to have to get used to stickin yourself, its all a part of it. What are your long term goals? How long have you been lifting? What are you taking now? Is your diet and training in line as well??? Read the boards to learn from others experiences!!

[archive_Iron God]

Your boyfriend should get with the program or you should cease being his girlfriend.

IG

[WarLobo]

Oh, how did I know IG would say something of the sort. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img]

LAte

Lobo

[archive_Ulter]

I would say you have every right to be pissed. I inject Ulababe and she injects me. I agree it is a lot better to share this as well as any experience together. I would tell him it is something that is going to happen with or without him, but you really wish it to be with him. You should get used to doing it yourself JIC.

[Daeo]

I'd be pissed too. Why the sudden change in heart about AS and you? Are you the one planning out your cycles or is it him? If it's you and he's just injecting you, how the hell is he responsible for anything? Sounds like a blockhead to me. I inject my girlfriend and she injects me. I couldn't imagine it being any different...

[OOT]

I organise my cycles, and he usually injects me. I have told him that what I choose to do to my body is my own problem and that no blame would ever be put back onto him by me or anyone! I would not allow that! I fully accept I am the one who's responsible for my own body and I wouldn't have it any other way.

I've been lifting for years (5?) and diet is all good. I've done a few cycles with one AS at a time. And when I say I'm going to be experimenting I mean I will be trying other AS's excusively to eventually learn what each one does to my body independently. I will then try stacking. So I don't mean experimentation in the recreational drug sense of the word, but I have a lot to learn about how my body reacts to certain types - and I will find out! I'm seriously VERY sensible though. I know all the possible side effects and I do my best at all times to avoid them.

I won't be using in vengeance of him, but I am really pissed!

He just turned around after almost two years and says he doesn't like doing it - doesn't feel good about sticking drugs into my butt!

I wonder if there's some insecurity involved on his behalf - like he doesn't want me to take the limelight off him, cause he was the one who was initially involved in bb and AS.

I'm really pissed off and I fear that this will push us apart. Especially now I now I'm gonna be pretty secretive about using.He thinks most bb couples don't survive becuase they do drugs TOGETHER?????

I think he's full of shit, I think he's testing me to see if I'm just trying to take the easy road by getting him to do it for me. So not true..... admittedly it was easier, but I will do it myself!

I am so pissed off, thus the above long scrawl of anger driven babble.

I just don't know whether he has a point or not.

[OOT]

By the way, I agree with you new@gettingbig, that I should accept it and move on, I guess I just need to air my frustration for now. Thanks.

[new@gettinbig1]

I would just do your own thing...I would be pissed as hell too!! It may pull you apart, but if it does...then it wasn't meant to be, so time will tell. Get used to doing it yourself and don't bother him or even mention it to him and see how he reacts...Its not worth stressing over. He has some underlying issues or something to all of a sudden disagree and refuse to help ya out etc. Just educate yourself and learn from others.....he may possibly have a tad bit of insecurity and jealousy. I apologize for my earlier post, I didn't mean to come off quite the way I did. Its the LOW carbs...gone to my head I just wanted to make sure you were not dependent on this guy for all your cycle info and possibly do something to piss him off or something to that affect. Keep your head up and just go on...with or without him. I wish you luck...and keep us posted!

[OOT]

new@gettingbig, you are on the money. I don't think the low carbs are affecting you too badly - you're advice is spot on.

So thanks, I will be doing just as you say. That was what I thought I should do and to have you confirm it is a relief for me. I am slowly refocussing on the task at hand. One minor setback (if you can call it that) WILL NOT in any way affect my progress or goals.

[Temple]

How serious is this relationship??? Is he looking at you like the body of the future mother of his children, is he doing this just to piss you off because he can (checkin' to see how much control he has over you) or does he have a case of the "I'm doing a cycle and feeling crabby so I'm going to be an asshole and I'll get over its". There is really more going on here than just not wanting to inject you and you need to find out what the real deal is.

[OOT]

He's always been more serious than me, and an argument of his during this whole thing is that he cares about me so much that if something was to happen to me he would never forgive himself. Well all he's doing is playing ignorant now, the same will happen regardless.

As for the future bearer of his children, I have been straight with him from the time our relationship began to get serious and have told him that I don't know if I even want to have children - ever - and he was fine with that.

I guess it's relatively serious, but we're young and I'm not looking to settle down (as in marriage) for years yet. He knows what I am like and doesn't press the issue.

I feel maybe that I have always been the one with the control and now he is trying to exert some over me.

[Temple]

Aaaaahhhhhh - the power struggle of young love, reminds me why if anything ever happened to the DH I'd live the life of a nun, too much work to start over. IMHO - it ain't about the gear. The upside is that after about 10 years or so together you will come to one of two conclusions, ya can't stand each other and put and end to it or you really love each other even though there are things about the other one that really piss you off and there is no use bitchin' about it cause it ain't going to change.

[skydancer]

Yes let me repeat that last line from Temple "or you really love each other even though there are things about the other one that really piss you off and there is no use bitchin' about it cause it ain't going to change" Coming off of a very rocky last year with my DH the bottom line was letting go of control and accepting and celebrating eachother's differences. It isn't about the AS - there is something else at work.

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